As a single mom do you leave your two young girls alone with a new boyfriend while you go out shopping?

You absolutely should not leave your two young kids with a boyfriend while you go out; not for any reason. You will put your kids at risk and you might deeply regret it. Once the damage is done there is no undoing the act. This is not to say that boyfriends should not be considered. They can be if you know the person very well, the kids like him and are used to him, and you don’t stay away for more than fifteen minutes or so. Otherwise, the kids should always be in your sight. It is just too dangerous to take chances. Kids are hurt every day by strangers as well as by people in the family.

Setting the parameters

• As a single parent your first priority is your kids. They trust and rely on you for their safety. You cannot abuse this by going out and leaving them with strangers while you are out having fun.

• Make arrangements with your mother or sister to look after your kids when you go out. Make sure the person is reliable and not going to be on the internet or playing computer games.

• If your former husband is good with the kids, let them see him more often. Your severance is with your former husband, not with the kids. Let them be with him for the weekend rather than be with a new boyfriend.
• Particularly because you have girls, do a background check on your boyfriend to see if he is a
safe person to be around your kids.

• Teach your girls not to sit on anyone’s lap – not even uncles and aunts – and to come and tell you if the boyfriend touches them anywhere.

• Teach your girls not to get in the boyfriend’s car or not to go anywhere with him- even if he says that they have to go and look for the dog.

• Have your mom come to the house to look after the kids if you are going to be out for a long time. Use this time also to do your shopping for the week, giving you more time with your kids.


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Sugar babies, the new word for thinly veiled prostitution

Some of you know that I have a gripe with Dr Phil every so often and all in good spirit. He just aggravated me to no end with that whole Fred Williams thing. Today, however, I am fully on the side of the host and write this article because it is definitely a topic that young women should be made aware of.

Today when the show opened, five stunning young women sat on the stage and proudly announced that they were sugar babies and accepted money and gifts. They were careful with their language and could not understand what the fuss was all about. They convinced themselves that it was not immoral and illegal to have sex for money and were quite adamant that they were seen as prostitutes.

They all claimed that they have five or six sugar daddies and tried to convince Dr Phil who we all know takes no guff that taking money or gifts from a sugar daddy for sex is not wrong. Apparently these women are on a site and explicitly invite men to contact them for sex. In the words of one woman, she said something to the effect that men did not want to be with fat, ugly and old women, and they got paid to be in the company of men.

There was a former Federal Prosecutor on the show also who told them it was illegal and they just laughed her off. The uncanny thing about all of this is that these women do not see how shallow and stupid they are. One even said, “If a man wants to drop $300 into my Gucci bag, why should I not take it?” A pimp for one of these women was in the audience and wanted to defend the role of the pimp. When Dr Phil rained down on the girls he made for a side door and took off.

The grand pimp then came on and tried to convince Dr Phil and the audience what a good thing he was doing. These women could save for college, they could meet other wealthy men and it was all a network run like a business. He could not understand why the audience and Dr Phil couldn’t see his point. We were told that there was now a man in the audience whose twenty year old daughter was trolling the site as he spoke. He came on the show to see for himself and what he could do to prevent his daughter from getting involved in such a site.

Parents beware! This is a multi million dollar business. Know where your girls are. Make sure you have a good relationship with your kids so you don’t have a child selling her body for sex. These women are sad and pathetic despite their sexy appearance; sadder than this is the fact that they really believe they will live forever and have no conscience


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The Dr Phil and Fred Williams saga

I’ve been following the Dr Phil show on and off since the show first started, and every time I tune in there is Dr Phil with the crack addict Fred Williams and his wife, Cathy trying to get the couple rehabilitated. Dr Phil usually gives a crack addict a chance to tell his story and then gets tough. He does not play around with the seriousness of the topic and will tell an addict what he thinks and what has to be done. All nice and wrapped up with the results three months later when the rehabilitation period is over.

In the case of Fred Williams the almighty Dr Phil has been lied to left and right by Fred Williams and still persists in listening to the lies, sending Williams off to rehab, following Williams’ progress, being lied to again. Any other addict Dr Phil would have read them their rights and sent them packing. I wondered why the favoritism, the money which was being spent, and the time Dr Phil had invested in one guest.

This morning I tune in to the program and there is Fred Williams sitting on the nice couch with new teeth in his mouth, a new haircut, new clothes, shoes, and his wife, Cathy in new garb also, with sparkling white teeth in her mouth, a snazzy hairdo with blond streaks and decent clothes. They had become celebrities for being liars and crack addicts. When Williams saw his wife enter the set, a tear appeared in his eyes. When Dr Phil reminded him and showed him a video of an earlier program some months back, Williams admitted he told all the lies and was laughing and having fun at all his attempts to get clean.

Is anyone kidding? We all know that addicts are liars and that we cannot take their word. Instead, Dr Phil sat on the opposite side of Williams and told him that he believed in him all that time. A video was shown of Williams sitting on the set. The video showed Williams entering rehab, staying six days, coming out of rehab and quite proudly marveled as he told how he had used crack and lied to Dr Phil all the time. They were almost buddies as he told the big host how he had turned to robbing and stealing cell phones and doing crack. Dr Phil was proud of him. He had taken a man out of a tent and given him respectability. He was showing his largesse. Get real, Dr Phil. Three months from now we are seeing William again. Imagine how many other addicts could’ve been helped with all that money spent. I guess one has to think out of the box all the time and think of the ratings.

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